Smile

Smile, though your heart is aching
Smile, even though it's breaking
When there are clouds in the sky
You'll get by...

If you smile
With your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You'll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just...

Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear may be ever so near
That's the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what's the use of crying
You'll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just...

Smile, though your heart is aching
Smile, even though it's breaking
When there are clouds in the sky
You'll get by...

If you smile
Through your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You'll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile...

That's the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what's the use of crying
You'll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile

p/s: no matter is good day, bad day, tiring day, hectic day, moody day, hyper day, horny day, cold day, warm day....YOU WILL ALWAYS BE A REASON FOR A SMILING DAY. HOPE YOU FEEL THE SAME, SMILE EVERYDAY NO MATTER HOW YOUR DAY TURNED OUT TODAY =)

What goes around comes around

Being much younger back then, there was not much consideration in me for others. I do not really care about others and how my action will affect them.

I expect others to please my need all the time, and if they failed, they will face some nastiness from me. Despite that, they still cared for me, in which I am truly blessed.

I have seen someone enduring all the nastiness from me and still continued caring for me. It has made me wonder, why is that person so stupid?

Well, is because that person loved you.

It made me realised how immature I am and I slowly begin to change over the years.

The trait is still in me, but I know better now and think twice before acting on my inconsideration.

As the saying said, "What goes around comes around"

You never realised how you affected others until it affected you. Once a while, I got those treatment from others, exactly the same with how I behaved back then, it hurts and definitely do not understand why you are being treated that way.

But I cannot blame them, I was not a perfect person myself.

Do not unto others, what you do not wish to be done unto you.

Being too clingy

What do you feel when you have someone who cling on you where ever you go 24/7 or maybe need you around constantly?

Don't you find that person annoying?

Don't he has a life?

It does not matter how close both the person can be, but if you need to stick to someone every minute or even second of the day, it starts to get annoying, not to the person clinging but to that person being clinged.

Everyone need some moment alone, their own privacy, to either finish their work or have some self-reflection moment. Or at least a balance and exposure to other people instead of the same person everday.

How pathetic is someone who don't have anyone but only one person for them to cling on.

I was guilty of all that many years ago, not that I do not have any life, but I just found one centre point of attention, and become totally ignorant and only focus to that centre point. It has come to a point, my world will not move without that person around.

And it is because of that, when that person leave you, you become totally devastated.

Nobody like someone who needed attention all the time. You may be free, but someone else is busy. Or you may be busy but someone is free. When time like this happened, both party must know how to respect each other.

It does not mean that person love you less or think of you less if they do not attend to you every second of the day. Sometimes, even the person who love you most has got something else to worry about beside you alone.

Give each other ample breathing space, not only it creates a healthier relationship, but it also makes both party love each other more.

As the saying said, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"

You will appreciate each other better when you see less or heard less of each other. And every opportunity to see other will be cherished and become memorable.

Less is more ;)

p/s: Despite writing this, I cannot help but to be annoying sometimes. You can categorise it as attention seeking, but I would always want see someone I loved in person everyday if possible, even for friends. I know the boundaries, and certainly aware of things that should not be done. No worries. =)

An hourglass

3.38pm- was busy rushing my work but was interrupted by a sudden urge to blog after my inspiration was triggered by a recent post. And also this post will be dedicated to a loyal fan who always complain no updates....so better blog it before i lose my inspiration to write :p

What do you do when you see your love ones unhappy?
I try to cheer him up...

How?
Maybe tell him a joke, bring him to his favourite restaurant, buy him a gift, sing him a song, do a lame action, cook him a meal, give him a hug, and do whatever I think I can to please him and make him smile...

-But I tried doing all of that. I saw him reciprocate my action with a smile. But I know he is just trying his best to please me. I can somehow sense he is still unhappy.
-No...he don't want me to hug him. In fact, he is been ignoring my call and messages. Even if he do, he just do want to talk much.
- He seems like a completely different person. I feel like a stranger. He shut me out from his life.
- He give excuses like I am tired. I have no mood. I am busy. He never done those before no matter how busy his days were last time.
- Every time we meet, I can sense he is making an effort to hide away his unhappiness. I just know something is not right.I feel a gap between us.
- He said he needs some time alone.

Anything happened to him recently?
Yeah...
-His dog just pass away.
-He failed his exam.
- He got fired from his job.
-He got into a great debt/ faced a great financial difficulties.
-His dream was shattered by an unforeseen event.
-His closest family member/friends just pass away.
-His parent found out he is gay and want to disown him.
-He is diagnosed with serious sickness/he got into accident and was immobilise.
-His family member is seriously sick and need a huge sum of money for medical expenses.

I saw him crying the other day. I have never seen him so sad in his entire life. He is always a jovial person you know?

I wanted to help him. I just wanted to cheer him up. I know I can't. Not unless I can help him to solve his current problem.

But how?

Why I'm so poor? If only I have the money that he needed so badly.
If only I can find a good doctor that will be able to treat him.
If only I have the abilitity to take away all his problem.
If only I am the one facing those problem instead of him.

Don't he know that I love him so much that I will always wish that nothing happened to him?
I rather be the one suffering instead of him.

But what I can do? I just sit here so helpless while knowing he needs a helping hand to get him out of his trouble...

I feel so useless.

And do you know? We have never really talk much for quite some time.

- I want to see him and be there with him but he keep avoiding me and said he do not want me to see him in his current situation.
- I do not know how to face him. I feel I am so useless. As his boyfriend, isn't it I should be the one to help him out. But is not that I do not want to, I do not know how.

Why real life is not same with what I watched in movies? In the movie, the actor/actress will somehow found a way to help his love ones and everything ended happily ever after. The knight in shining armor saving his damsel in distress....

How can I save my damsel in distress? Am I just going to sit here and watch her tortured by the evil witch?

Can someone please tell me what to do?

We argued. We quarrel. I was annoyed. I feel bad. I feel a tense between us. A gap. Misunderstanding. He said I do not understand him at all. Accusing that I am insensitive.

I tried doing something that make him feel bad instead. It got worse.

The worst thing happened I am striked with some problem myself too. I am afraid to tell him knowing he has been through enough himself.

Where are the happy days when we feel so happy by just seeing and looking at each other in the eyes? Where are the days when we laughed together at silly things we saw? Where are the days when we feel like we are the happiest couple on earth? Where are the days when we talk until the wee morning?

I really wish anything can be back to normal. I miss those days....

Have you experienced something like this before? Have you ever thought of something like this could happen before?

What do you do?

Do you know your loved ones never wish to see you unhappy?

Is true that when you are happy, everyone can share your happiness, but when you got into trouble, only you can feel the real pain....

What do you do? Continue to feel sorry for yourself? What can you do? Hide yourself away? Cry? Is ok to cry, but getting into depression?

Who knows what will happend tomorrow? You expect life to be a smooth ride? In everyone's life, at a point somehow, you will need to face a test that will either make you grow up or break you. You learn to grow stronger with every challenges you faced.

Your loved ones really wish to help you. But sometimes, there are certain things, only you can help yourself. And of course God. We only pray to the Almighty one to reduce the test we have to endure.

If you do not have faith that things will turn out better, no words of console or action can really help you.

Just remember, when you are suffering, your loved ones are going through with you too. Just think a while, what if it is you who are watching them suffering? Can you feel the helpless feeling they have?

When both of you first agreed to commit to one another, you know in time of good and bad, in time of wealth and poor, in time of happy and sorrow, both of you have agreed that you will go throught it together.

Is ok if you need sometime alone, but not till the extent of shutting off entirely. A listening ear is what I can offer you. A shoulder to cry on and a warm hug with a words of assurance that you are not alone after all. And in my entire effort, I will of course want to get you out from your situation.

But we are just human after all. Only the Almight one above know when will all this end. Till then we just need to keep our faith high and hope for things to turn out better.

I am not a genie to able to grant you every wish. I always wish I am, but I am not.

If you really love someone, do not shut them away. As far I am concern, this is usually the situation that bring a great tense into a relationship no matter is heterosexual or homosexual one. Especially married couples.

Both are together, it means the bond as a family. As a family, bad times are meant to be faced together. Wouldn't it be selfish that you want to go through everything yourself, leaving your partner feeling helpless and useless?

Talk together. Share together. Cry together. Pray together. When life tries to be funny to you, laugh at it together like how both laughed when saw funny things. Tell each other, tomorrow will be better, even if it don't, is not the end, we will go through it together till things get better.

A quote I remembered reading: "Life is like an hourglass, eventually everything will hit the bottom, till someone come and turn it around"

Everything will be good again, just stay put and never give up on your loved ones....

P/s: this post is not about me, it is written as an inspiration for anyone or maybe myself in the future if helpess situation like this happened in a relationship ;)

Easier said than done, but if given a good try, I believe it will somehow work!

A Fish With A Smile

Another animation that has got a nice meaning behind it.



I woke up in the middle of the night,

I thought it was morning,

No, is not even twilight yet,

Usually it is just like any normal night,

But no, it is not, you appeared in my mind,

Why can't I see?

That this is not a dream?

Am I too numbed to even realise it?

What was I afraid of?

Losing someone again?

Seeing the person you love most becoming the stranger of your life?

This is real,

I am not dreaming,

I am awake now in my own dream,

If I ever go with the feeling,

I do not want to lose someone again,

If you really love somebody, you have to set if free?

Sorry,I did it once, but I do not want to do it again,

Have you ever unconciously felt the corner of your eyes were wet?

If I ever love you, can you don't leave me?

Because I can never really set you free...

What do people live for? 人为什么要活着？

This is a very inspirational video.

Live life to the fullest, do not self-pity.

Everyone is worthy of doing something great for themselves, as long as we are still breathing.

Life is short, look back with no regret.

You may not be in a situation now where you wished could have been. But it does not mean that should stop you from doing accomplishing your own dream.

Stand up and do not look at what you are lacking, instead look around and see what you have, you still have a life, live it to the fullest.

At the end of the day, where we ended is entirely caused by our own choice.

No matter you are happy or sad, the clock still continue to tick every second, why choose to be sad?

Be happy and live a positve life no matter what your situation is right now. =)

Why the raven is like a writing desk?

Hi there readers, since I am disturbed from my sleep and it is quite late to do some serious work, might as well just blog. I found out I tend to write better when I am half awake because my mind tend to have deeper thoughts.



Have you ever asked your partner this question, "Why do you like me?"



I am so sure most of you would have asked that question before, and especially if you are a girl asking your boyfriend.



Answers I have heard include, because you are so arrogant =/, because you are cute, because you always make me laugh, because I can get along with you, because you are good in bed, because you are RICH, because you are HOT, HANDSOME, SEXY, because you are famous, because you can cook, because we shared the same interest, because you are kind, and the because just goes on....



However, I am sure some of you would have gotten this answer:



I don't know. I have no clue why do I love you. I just love you for who you are.



Awww...for me, that is really the most genuine answer. However, some people tend to dislike that kinda answer and perceive them as being insincere. They will start questioning like, "you mean there are nothing about me that you even like???"



Why must there be an answer to everthing?



Can someone please tell me what is the answer to famous riddle of Alice in the Wonderland, why the raven is like a writing desk? When Lewis Caroll included this riddle in the tale, everyone demanded for an answer. Everyone wants to know the answer and find it silly and stupid that Caroll has included a riddle that has got no answer.



Can you explain why the sun must rise from the east? Can you tell me who created God?



As far as human is curious and demand an explanation for everything, there are certain things that cannot be explained or rather left unknown.



Can someone please tell me why he must love that girl/boy who is so ugly, fat and unattractive? Isn't it I am ten times better than her/him?



I can tell you, it is just feeling. The proper word would be, chemistry. Or maybe if you believe in karma, both of you are lovers in past life or you owe that person something in your past life, and this time you are destinied to meet him/her to repay your debt or be with him/her again.



When I found out I fell in love with him, I cannot explain it either. I keep asking myself everyday the same question? Why do I like him? He is not cute, not handsome, not rich, not funny, and in fact he is so dull. But believe it or not, it is the feeling. When I first meet him, it is the feeling of extreme comfort I have, somehow my senses just tell me he is the one I would want to be with.



Some of you might have fallen in love with someone because that person is so spontaneous, for example he gives you a kiss on your cheek unexpected or just hug you from behind.



True love need no explanation. Love is blind. If love can be explained, it is not love, it is an exchange of benefit.



I am not saying there should not be any benefit you wish to obtain from that person, but if the benefit is your first motive, then how genuine are you in being in the relationship? You want a handsome boyfriend so that you feel proud and your friends will look at you in awe when you go out with him? You want your boyfriend that drive a big car? You want a boyfriend that can bring you go for fine dining every week?



Perfection does not exist. Nothing is perfect. If you have witnessed before, if your boyfriend can provides you with all the luxuries, he tend to be a playboy and less likely to be faithful to you. You are just one of his toys, at first he will shower you with all his attention, but when he found out that you no longer interest him, he will just dump you like a trash.



As for myself, I am very grateful when someone loves me because of my weakness. For example, I may be insensitive, bad temper and whatever bad characteristic you can think of, you still continued to love me. You never give up on me no matter how I broke your heart sometimes. Believe me, because of your genuine feeling and faith in me, I will incline to change my bad characteristic. This is because I think you really deserve something better. Everyone has a conscience in what they did. I know there are certain people who take advantage of others love and sacrifices for them, and they take it for granted. When people is being nice to you, it does not mean you truly deserve them, it is because they love you too much and you are definitely blessed! However, if you don't count your blessing, you will regret it when its too late. Remember the song, Back to December by Taylor Swift?



If you still love me despite when I told you the following:



I have nothing to offer you at the moment,

I am not the famous hunk everyone is chasing after,

I cannot be as funny as Mr Bean to make you laugh 24/7,

I do not have a big car to take you everywhere,

I am sorry that you may find me a bit of a bore,

I am unable bring you go holiday and luxury dining because I cannot afford it at the moment,

I am sorry you will have to bear with me because I have my parents to take care of,

I may lose my temper when I am stressed up,

I am sorry that I have to work hard and unable accompany you all the time,

I am sorry that I can't make you go ooo and ahhh on the bed,

I am a sucker in being romantic,

I do not have muscular pecs, abs, biceps, triceps, I am sorry that I am a bit out of shape,

and finally...



I am sorry because I cannot be the ideal knight in shining armor that you always fantasized...



But, if you still continued love me, I will make sure you are the luckiest person one day.

Do not look into the present, think of the future. I may not be who you would have wished me to be now, but as long as I am still breathing, I can still give you what you deserve.



When the day is sunny, I will never forget that you are the one who shelter me with your umbrella when I am drenched and soaked wet under the heavy rain once....

What is normal?

“Normal is getting dressed in clothes that you buy for work and driving through traffic in a car that you are still paying for – in order to get to the job you need to pay for the clothes and the car, and the house you leave vacant all day so you can afford to live in it.”– Ellen Goodman (Journalist)
This is so true and got me thinking about it....